Have you tried FetLife? or CollarMe? Bondage.com?
Have tried collarme, which is where the flaky one came from, and have had very little luck with them.
Yeah, CM can be hit or miss... I log in every now and then. FetLife has been a great place, though - particularly for publicizing my own kink group here in Cinci :)
...You can find that guy right here. 5' 10", 185 lbs, fit (military), no drugs or diseases, nor senior citizen, but matured and experienced.
I've tried other websites to, including craigslist, but all I get in return is a redirect to enter (register) to another web site (for free) they say, but then it turns out there is a fee to see their pics and chat with them. I certainly hope you are not in that category.
Let's see how serious you are. By the way, you mention several key words that captured my attention, but you don't specify whether spit or swallow.
2009-05-05 08:38 pm (UTC)
Re: RIGHT HERE...
Where do you live?
I have an idea.
Switch to evil girls, who pack a big cock.
Your icon reminds me of an episode of Californication where someone has a statue of himself wearing a kilt, and his dick hangs down longer. I briefly tried to find a picture, but couldn't so I made my own.
hehe, a friend of mine made/found that for me. I'm notorious for wearing short tight skirts, or short flouncy petticoats when I'm packing.
I'd recommend FetLife. It's doing alright at the moment as a screener to finding a new sub for me. It also served me well last fall in finding me one who took three loads of cum down her throat and two in her pussy during an overnight encounter. There would have been more with her if not for a boyfriend who changed his mind about more encounters, a few days later.
2009-05-05 03:01 pm (UTC)
I may be way off...
I think there needs to be some kind of relationship between master and slave that goes beyond the play. I'm not talking about dating but that you approach this search as you would making any new friends.
When I worked in an S&M shop, there were various pamphlets left on the counter for either parties or groups of S&M folks. It was called the Whipping Post and fairly low buget, I'm pretty sure it was printed on someone's home computer. Anyway, I would always reccomend the info to anyone in the shop asking where to go and what to do.
Nothing like that in your area? Maybe you could start one. There are always more interested parties than you think in any large city. I would start at any S&M toy store/adult book store, just get a feel for the places, talk to the employees, see what they've heard of.
Anyway, that's my non-website idea.
I might have a few sites I could recommend, but they are more run-of-the-mill swonger sites that my wife and I are members of.
I am having similar difficulties with regard to my interest of C-queen stuff. The more I search for info/pron/etc, the more I discover that there isn't anything of substance available. Sucks. I'm gonna start looking on UK sites.
Aside from the distance thing, you know you have access anytime you want to visit T. Full multi-pass approval.
And I would be more than happy to do the C-queen stuff for you. Thinking of a trip out this summer.
Really? Well, you should chat with T about coordination for a visit. I would love to see you.
And now I must ask.
2009-05-05 05:11 pm (UTC)
I've been looking for the same thing.
I've actually had friends suggest OKCupid.
I'll let that sink in a bit.
And some of my friends wonder why they end up with crappy hookups. *sigh*
I think OKCupid would make me stab myself in the eye.
It pretty much will. I tried it after much begging from my friends, and its pretty much useless for things like this. I have been reading with interest, because I am likewise stuck. Are there so few people into this stuff? or just no decent way to find each other.
AFF is a scam whole anyway
That's okay, the way it works for us guys is: kinky, skinny, sane. Choose any two. I can actually personally recommend a couple of good but they're pretty flaky for various reasons (kids and job for one, and bipolar for the other).
At any rate, I highly recommend going to the munches around here (I think there's three, each happening at least once a month, usually twice). Plus there's the Rascals and MVK play parties. MVK is still being hosted by a friend of mine, AFaIK.
I'd also recommend FetLife. It's got a decent, active Canadian contingent (I run into far more posts from the Toronto region than from my entire chunk of the SE!) so, depending on where you are, you might have some great luck.
And if you weren't so far, I'd me making a pitch, as well. ;)
I just joined... impressive!
I'm going to add my own vote to the whole Fetlife thing.
After trying site after site for years, including Craigslist, Collarme, Bcom, blah blah... even the dreaded OKCupid... Fetlife at least connect you to the RIGHT sort of people to start with.
Of course it suffers from the usual stuff that fetish based social sites suffer from... but with better quality.
It at the least makes for interesting reading.
Hey ... what's wrong with Craigslist? (don't ban me! lol) I meet guys from there all the time and they work me over good ... but maybe it's because I'm on the gay side....