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*Sigh* [May. 4th, 2009|04:54 pm]
Bad Girl
So it looks like the search for a new play partner is not going well. There was a prospect virtually lined up who just dropped off the face of the earth for a month.

WTF?

It seems like the only guys interested in regular, kinky, dirty-ass sex (pun intended) are either flaky, retarded, drug addicted, ugly, obese, or old enough to be my grandfather, or any combination.

I even got desperate enough to put an ad on craigslist, which I don't recommend, looking for a play partner. I was very explicit about what I wanted, and what I was prepared to offer, and I got probably a hundred responses, some that even started "on your knees now bitch." No, really. Probably about 10 at least. I can count on one hand the number that were so much as spelled correctly, and I think two of those who even bothered to read the e-mail.

*histrionic sigh*

So, I need advice. Where can I find a non-ugly, non-crazy, somewhat experienced guy to dominate the hell out of me on a regular basis, who will not flake out, doesn't use drugs, and isn't a senior citizen? In exchange I will offer frequent, freaky sex, anal, deep-throating, and the ability to use just about any implement of evil on my ass on a somewhat regular basis.

(first person to say AFF, craigslist, or lavalife gets banned!)
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[User Picture]From: julylorelei
2009-05-05 12:11 am (UTC)
Have you tried FetLife? or CollarMe? Bondage.com?
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[User Picture]From: drrtyslut
2009-05-05 12:12 am (UTC)
Have tried collarme, which is where the flaky one came from, and have had very little luck with them.
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[User Picture]From: julylorelei
2009-05-05 12:18 am (UTC)
Yeah, CM can be hit or miss... I log in every now and then. FetLife has been a great place, though - particularly for publicizing my own kink group here in Cinci :)
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[User Picture]From: pena_tr8tor
2009-05-05 02:13 am (UTC)

RIGHT HERE...

...You can find that guy right here. 5' 10", 185 lbs, fit (military), no drugs or diseases, nor senior citizen, but matured and experienced.

I've tried other websites to, including craigslist, but all I get in return is a redirect to enter (register) to another web site (for free) they say, but then it turns out there is a fee to see their pics and chat with them. I certainly hope you are not in that category.

Let's see how serious you are. By the way, you mention several key words that captured my attention, but you don't specify whether spit or swallow.
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[User Picture]From: drrtyslut
2009-05-05 08:38 pm (UTC)

Re: RIGHT HERE...

Where do you live?
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[User Picture]From: msmarlamae
2009-05-05 02:43 am (UTC)
I have an idea.

Switch to evil girls, who pack a big cock.
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From: nakedgeek
2009-05-05 06:40 am (UTC)
Your icon reminds me of an episode of Californication where someone has a statue of himself wearing a kilt, and his dick hangs down longer. I briefly tried to find a picture, but couldn't so I made my own.
Photobucket
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[User Picture]From: msmarlamae
2009-05-05 01:04 pm (UTC)
hehe, a friend of mine made/found that for me. I'm notorious for wearing short tight skirts, or short flouncy petticoats when I'm packing.

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From: takitornado
2009-05-05 03:47 am (UTC)
I'd recommend FetLife. It's doing alright at the moment as a screener to finding a new sub for me. It also served me well last fall in finding me one who took three loads of cum down her throat and two in her pussy during an overnight encounter. There would have been more with her if not for a boyfriend who changed his mind about more encounters, a few days later.
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[User Picture]From: erthdic
2009-05-05 03:01 pm (UTC)

I may be way off...

I think there needs to be some kind of relationship between master and slave that goes beyond the play. I'm not talking about dating but that you approach this search as you would making any new friends.
When I worked in an S&M shop, there were various pamphlets left on the counter for either parties or groups of S&M folks. It was called the Whipping Post and fairly low buget, I'm pretty sure it was printed on someone's home computer. Anyway, I would always reccomend the info to anyone in the shop asking where to go and what to do.

Nothing like that in your area? Maybe you could start one. There are always more interested parties than you think in any large city. I would start at any S&M toy store/adult book store, just get a feel for the places, talk to the employees, see what they've heard of.

Anyway, that's my non-website idea.
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From: v_n_j
2009-05-05 03:11 pm (UTC)
I might have a few sites I could recommend, but they are more run-of-the-mill swonger sites that my wife and I are members of.

- J
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From: masterofsexnsin
2009-05-05 04:39 pm (UTC)
I am having similar difficulties with regard to my interest of C-queen stuff. The more I search for info/pron/etc, the more I discover that there isn't anything of substance available. Sucks. I'm gonna start looking on UK sites.

Aside from the distance thing, you know you have access anytime you want to visit T. Full multi-pass approval.
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[User Picture]From: drrtyslut
2009-05-05 08:37 pm (UTC)
And I would be more than happy to do the C-queen stuff for you. Thinking of a trip out this summer.
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From: masterofsexnsin
2009-05-05 08:58 pm (UTC)
Really? Well, you should chat with T about coordination for a visit. I would love to see you.
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From: v_n_j
2009-05-06 11:56 pm (UTC)
And now I must ask.

C-Queen?

- J
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[User Picture]From: zwee
2009-05-05 05:11 pm (UTC)
I've been looking for the same thing.
I've actually had friends suggest OKCupid.

I'll let that sink in a bit.

...

OKCupid.
*flail*
And some of my friends wonder why they end up with crappy hookups. *sigh*
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[User Picture]From: drrtyslut
2009-05-05 08:38 pm (UTC)
I think OKCupid would make me stab myself in the eye.
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[User Picture]From: deathstalker910
2009-05-05 11:51 pm (UTC)
It pretty much will. I tried it after much begging from my friends, and its pretty much useless for things like this. I have been reading with interest, because I am likewise stuck. Are there so few people into this stuff? or just no decent way to find each other.

Definitely frustrating.

-Owen
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[User Picture]From: corpseguy
2009-05-07 09:40 am (UTC)
AFF is a scam whole anyway
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[User Picture]From: gromm
2009-05-07 11:21 pm (UTC)
That's okay, the way it works for us guys is: kinky, skinny, sane. Choose any two. I can actually personally recommend a couple of good but they're pretty flaky for various reasons (kids and job for one, and bipolar for the other).

At any rate, I highly recommend going to the munches around here (I think there's three, each happening at least once a month, usually twice). Plus there's the Rascals and MVK play parties. MVK is still being hosted by a friend of mine, AFaIK.
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[User Picture]From: satyrnoir
2009-05-08 07:02 pm (UTC)
I'd also recommend FetLife. It's got a decent, active Canadian contingent (I run into far more posts from the Toronto region than from my entire chunk of the SE!) so, depending on where you are, you might have some great luck.

And if you weren't so far, I'd me making a pitch, as well. ;)
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[User Picture]From: drrtyslut
2009-05-13 10:57 pm (UTC)
I just joined... impressive!
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[User Picture]From: wildkink
2009-05-18 08:21 pm (UTC)
I'm going to add my own vote to the whole Fetlife thing.
After trying site after site for years, including Craigslist, Collarme, Bcom, blah blah... even the dreaded OKCupid... Fetlife at least connect you to the RIGHT sort of people to start with.
Of course it suffers from the usual stuff that fetish based social sites suffer from... but with better quality.
It at the least makes for interesting reading.
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From: mybuttis4you
2009-05-26 06:32 pm (UTC)
Hey ... what's wrong with Craigslist? (don't ban me! lol) I meet guys from there all the time and they work me over good ... but maybe it's because I'm on the gay side....
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[User Picture]From: endgrain
2009-08-27 04:39 am (UTC)
Any luck?
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